Parental talk and its effect on childhood: the four areas most affected
Advances in neuroscience and psychology today are bringing more and more evidence today on the impact of parental talk on children and of the importance of using empowering language frequently. Neuroscience tells us that the thoughts, the ideas –whether positive or negative-, and how we feel about them, especially when frequently entertained, affect the reality we create and the accomplishments we achieve. Psychology, on the other hand, is shedding more and more light on the importance of the language experiences children are exposed to in their early childhood, and –if negative- the long-lasting scars it may have on their adult life later on.
A cursory look at the kind of language commonly used with kids and frequently overheard in malls, streets, homes…etc and perpetrated in the media, social media and the like, indicates that cursing, calling names, comparing kids to animals and using condescending language with kids has not only been trivialized but also become a source of hilarity and amusement. This video raises the issue of parental language and its many deep and long-lasting effects on childhood programming, and presents parents with alternative language that can empower kids.
Specifically, it looks into aspects of:
1- empowerment Vs disempowerment
2- creativity/risk-taking and decision
3- money talk and financial security
4- positive (can do) Vs negative (can’t do) talk
In summary, parents have a choice of whether to adopt a language that will help the child grow or the language that aims at protecting the kid and may in the process be preventing him/her from experiencing life first-hand, taking risk, and henceforth take away from his/her learning (Growth Vs Protection).
How do YOU choose to talk to your kids?
“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice."
Peggy O’Mara, Author